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Changing Perspective

8th August 2014

Some days the days seem to stretch into seemingly weeks, and I get a bit bogged down in the  mundane tasks that we do every day.  Washing, cleaning, cooking, hanging out the washing, you get it right?  The tasks that take up time every day and get in the way of ‘fun’ things. And by fun things I really mean sleep.  Or silence.  Haha!

Right now we are in winter.  A winter where almost every day is over 22 degrees and sitting in the sunshine is just glorious!  We have been enjoying the outside play a great deal; with the kids declaring that it is “just right weather”.  What this means is basically they are happy to run around all day and not be bothered.  They have been playing a great deal of frisbee chucking, chasies and generally running around and screaming about being chased by a zombie.  Or a creeper.  (Minecraft is very loved in this house).  They hide in their cubby house for the creepers to pass.  Or the zombie pigman to get away.  It is hysterical listening to them shush each other in hope that they don’t get spotted.  Their imaginations are limitless, and hilarious. 

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Many days it is much easier to focus on the boring stuff – like the washing.  And hanging it out.  And then having to unhang it, fold it and put it away, only to do the same thing all over again in 2 days time.  Fun right? 

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Shift the focus from the clothes and we have some frisbee chucking legends and a yard full of happy kids (and dogs!!).  Some days I have to really force myself to *stop* being a Mother, and to be a Mum.  A Mum who doesn’t worry so much about the washing and has fun flying crappy handmade kites and chucking frisbees.  Routine is what I strive to maintain, but sometimes, a polite little one finger salute to routine is what we all need!  I can’t remember when I laughed so much, and when the kids couldn’t draw breath because we were all crap at throwing the frisbee.  We had such a fun afternoon that involved no screens (iPads or TV) for the kids, or work for me.  It was great!

Whilst I know that one of my strengths in rearing these kids has been routine, I can appreciate how much fun it is to ignore routine every once in a while.  I know I can often feel ‘uneasy’ when Jason comes home and we go off on some half cracked adventure for the day when it is washing, mail or something day.  I always worry about catching up and falling behind.  Sounds crazy I am sure, but it is how I organise and get all my crap done!  I guess the trick for me is going to be finding balance.  Now that I have three four year olds and a seven year old, their needs for me change and they can do some things unsupervised. 

I suppose balance and a healthy dose of perspective is the key.  So now I am off to re-jig our routine and see what I can do to be a little more ‘fun’!!

 

Kids, Motherhood

Capture the Everyday

31st July 2014

Last week I posted “Let Go” – which was as much about me as a person as it was about being a mother; and letting go of things that I am focusing on for no real reason.  This post had such an overwhelming and humbling response!  I had so many lovely comments from people all over the world.  Obviously, I am not alone in my thoughts.

I am *trying* to make a conscious effort to ‘be’ in more photos, accept how I look, and work at being healthier with my kids as opposed to focusing on numbers.  I am very much aware of the effect I could potentially have on my kids, and not just my girls, by shying away from the camera, and speaking negatively about myself.  I can only reiterate, that whilst I will never be a super model, I will be the most beautiful women to my children for a very long time.  And I really need to embrace this.  What a wonderful feeling it is to have four kids who love me for what and who I am.  They love me despite my tired ‘cranky’ moments, or the bags under my eyes. I am likened to Elsa and Anna from Frozen (which is a big compliment apparently, because not only am I royalty, I am a pretty one at that!) and a cross between Batman and SuperWoman. And I would not be alone in this.  All mothers, aunts, big sisters and women would have the same adjectives surrounding their name from the world of little people. 

The big undertone here is one of love.  Kids love unconditionally.  It is only our influence and impact that will change this – and often our unwitting one.  We are not always aware of how much of our hearts and moods we wear on our sleeves.  I want my kids to love and be loved, and to, more importantly, love themselves.  I want them to be confident, but not arrogant, and kind, but not submissive.  I want them to know that they are not the centre of the universe, but that they are incredibly important to so many people.  I look at this list and think I should follow suit – we all should!

So yesterday, I looked at capturing my kids, exactly how they are *right now* because it won’t be long and they will be changing, adapting and growing even more on me!

Hayden

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7 years old/young.  Oh my goodness kid, I never knew how much you could love someone until we had you.  Having our first child was like having our hearts permanently on the outside of our bodies.  And it still is.  You are such an amazing little boy.  You are growing so quickly, and learning so much.  Your understanding, ability to infer and be both sarcastic and witty never cease to amaze me.  Your kindness, patience and understanding of triplet siblings knows no bounds, and is something that no matter what, will always make you a very special boy, and the bestest big brother in the world.

Today was a ‘normal’ day for you.  School.  But even at school you find adventures and fun to have.  You dream.  You sing.  You laugh.  You love lego.  You have endless questions and a thirst for knowledge.  You read an entire novel in one night (last night it was 39 Floored Treehouse).  You still let me hold your hand.  You still let me kiss and cuddle you.  I know it won’t last for ever, so I revel in every night that I get to sing your special lullaby to you, and tuck you in.  I love you more than icecream little buddy.

 

Brendan

4 years old/young.  Holy moly B.  You have no “off” switch.  Ever!  Unless you are asleep, you are never entirely still.  You are so incredibly full of energy.  You love running, jumping, hopping, skipping, dancing, singing, and then doing all of that all over again.  You are hilarious and our little joker.  Quite often we will hear Emma say “Beeeee, do something crazy” – to which you will pull a face, or do something to crack everyone up.  You are full of giggles, laughter and sunshine.  You are such a little dude!

Today was a normal day for you as well.  Kindy.  You love it, and love playing with other kids.  You are particularly in love with your teacher, and still sad that Miss Cindy has left.  It still surprises me that you quite often don’t play with your sisters at Kindy.  You go off and do your own thing.  I love that you have found a place to be yourself and by yourself with the support of your siblings. 

One of the most important possessions to you is Doby.  Hayden gave you one of his when you were a baby.  Neither of you can sleep without Doby.  It still is the single most beautiful and altruistic act I have ever seen in my kids.  Hayden’s reasoning at the time (and remember he was 3 11/2) “I can’t sleep without my Doby, so either could Brendan, he can have one of mine (he had three)”.

Emma

4 years old/young.  Ems is our crackpot.  She is often living in another world, with random outbursts that relate to nothing that is being discussed.  Tuesday it was about the internet being stupid because it was basically invisible so how could people know if they could have it or not or if it was in their house? And why wasn’t it in cars if cars had those maps that told you where to drive to (GPS)?!  Hilarious!  You are our rainbow kid.  Colour is your big love, particularly orange, followed by the rainbow.  Stripes and colour and a bed full of toys who are all so special to you that you cannot sleep without them.  Some nights I wonder where *you* actually sleep!

You are always singing and dancing as well.  You have such a special bond with Hayden.  The two of you have always had a special bond.  I am not sure why.  You also love Minecraft – because Hayden did initially, but now you can play it and you love it!

You have hair all the way down to your bum, and you love your long hair.  You can laugh and cry at the same time, and sometimes you are not sure which you should do.  You love Kindy.  You of the three, are the most focused.  You love reading books, tomato sauce and bananas.  You are a little monkey – some days I have to put the fruit bowl up really high so you don’t eat your fifth banana and score a tummy ache.

 

Caitlyn

4 years old/young.  You are our feisty little chicken.  Fiercely independent.  Strong willed.  Stubborn. And you love pink, and princesses, and pretty dresses/shoes.  You have strawberry blonde curly hair that does not ever look neat and tidy.  It has a mind of its own!  Fiery like you!  You have a beanie baby that is named “Ali Moloney” (still cracks me up) who is a nurse and a teacher and a cook.  Haha!

You love Frozen and Minnie Mouse.  You try to decide who is the best – Anna or Elsa.  You wish your hair was as long as Emma’s, but still curly and ‘your colour’.  You are the little mother hen of my kids.  Always clucking around and making sure everyone is ok.  You have a beautiful nature – and you are so incredibly protective of your siblings – Hayden included.

It’s funny, because some days I catch myself thinking about ‘the talk’ we had from our Maternal and Foetal Medicine Specialist to reduce our pregnancy to twins.  It would have been you that was selectively reduced.  That blows me away.  Life without you would not be the same, we would always feel like something was missing I am sure.  You have the most spunk out of all three – you are witty, argumentative, and so incredibly loving.  You also need the most ‘mummy cuddles and kisses’ and have such incredibly sad eyes when you are sick.  You love cups of tea, (with honey and milk please) and ‘anything my mummy makes in the oven’.  You are so vivacious, kind and bold.  Nothing scares you, as long as you can see me, or feel safe, you are not ever scared!

 

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So, there is my ‘day’ captured.  Now, to get in the picture, and keep up the momentum of focusing on the right things!

 

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Blog Hop with a Difference :)

27th July 2014

Last week, the lovely Lauren from Love Life Lauren invited me to be a part of a blog hop with a difference.  It is a series of short questions designed to get to know ‘me’ and see some further blogs to go to.  I feel very special being a part of this. So here goes 🙂

1.  What am I working on right now?

Well, I am completing this on Sunday, so right now I am getting ready for the school week by cooking up all the lunch box treats.  It is also our turn in the Play Dough roster at Kindy, so here are our efforts for Play Dough.

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Motherhood, Work Life Balance

Let Go

21st July 2014

A few years ago, there was a great song by Frou Frou – Let Go.  I am not great at determining song meanings, but I really think this song is about humanity, and what it is like to love, live and experience every day adventures.  I love the line ‘ there is beauty in the breakdown’ – as it rings true with me constantly.  I can honestly say, that as a mother of four, I loose my crap, and do ‘break down’.  It might be over spilt milk, or another sibling fight.  But in that moment, and for every moment, I am beautiful and amazing to my kids. The relevance here?  Give me a few minutes of your time…
My four kids are going to have their perception of beauty and self image modelled by me (no pun intended!).  I am pretty crap at accepting a compliment, have next to no fashion sense or any idea of style, and would list my favourite clothing as pyjamas.  But to my four kids, I am a rock star.  I am ‘so pretty mummy’, have the nicest shoes (pink chuck taylors), and have the bestest t-shirt (featuring wonder woman).  None of these items of apparel will land me on the cover of a magazine; but for my kids, I am the prettiest lady in the world.  And I need to learn to accept this.  Because, I do not want my chickens thinking that there is anything wrong with them – we are all unique, we are all magical, and we are all beautiful.  Easy to say, harder to prove!

I shy away from the camera, and if I do have to have a photo taken, I scrutinise my appearance.  I don’t know why because I am yearning for the near impossible.  I am never going to look like ‘that’.  I am never going to have junk in my trunk because let’s face it, my trunk has been through two pregnancies – one a triplet pregnancy, and it has now in my 30’s seen better days.  But my laugh lines, are that – my laughing, smiling and absolute moments of hysterical laughing.  Moments etched in time, and etched in lines I guess is a good way to put it.  My stretch marks on my tummy are my kids paintings.  I tell them that when they were in my tummy, they got bored sometimes and this is what they did.  I kinda like that they are there, they are a reminder that I can do and grow pretty good things.  And that I am strong.  But they are not that pretty!

Despite all my perceived faults, I have a husband who loves me, and children who know nothing different as I am their mum.  Sure the scales vary, and I find it harder to coerce them the ‘right’ way sometimes when that baked delight is looking so incredibly good, but I have to learn to shift my focus before my kids learn bad habits and perceptions from me.

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Kids, Motherhood

Building Birthday Memories

12th July 2014

This week saw my three three year olds turn four.  Yep, they are four.  I cannot believe how fast (and yet so slow some days!) the time has gone.  I have four little people now, each having their own little personality and idiosyncrasies.  Hayden is still the ultimate big brother, who knows all of his sisters toys names, knows how to fix a tea party, and who has unconditional love for his siblings.  This is one of the first photos of him being a big brother – here he is visiting Emma (about 6 hours old) and singing to her (Miss Polly had a dolly who was sick sick sick…)

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Being school holidays, we have had the fun of having them home every day.  Last week we took them to a special high tea (Enchanted Forest High Tea at the Stamford Plaza in Brisbane) to celebrate their birthday, get dressed up like princesses and princes and have tea and cake (a daily mission for them!).  We were the only ones there, and we got the special treatment.  The kids were overwhelmed with the tea pots, cake and sandwiches.  It was very special – and reports from the kids “I think that high tea is very special Mummy”.

High Tea!

High Tea!

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It was an amazing time – and so incredibly worth it (we got 2 for 1 vouchers off of Facebook, so it was very affordable!).  They all had an excellent time, and had happy birthday sung to them!

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Moving along to their actual birth ‘day’.  They all wanted different cakes.  Yep, three cakes.  They all decided (as a collective I guess) that they wanted to go “Birthday Camping” for their birthday wish/present.  So, for the cakes, Brendan wanted a fire truck, Emma wanted Slimer from the Ghostbusters, and Caitlyn a Princess.  This is what we ended up with –

Cakes are even in birth order!

Cakes are even in birth order!

We sang happy birthday three times, and they had a small piece of each cake.  (we still have left overs even after giving some away!).

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Ems

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After cake, we set off for birthday camping.  We went to Murphys Creek Escape, in the Lockyer Valley.  It was amazing.  The kids love the caravan.  So do I.  It is some quality screen free time where we all have to work together, play together and be together.  We had a camp fire every night, and some marshmallows roasted over the fire one night. 

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We set off on a “safari” where we wandered through the creek bed and the rocks.  It was a wonderful few hours (yep hours!) where the kids were able to safely explore and look around.  Even though it was cold and the water was freezing, they all unanimously decided to go for a ‘safari swim’ and build a dam.  Thank goodness for warm showers (20 cents for 2 minutes) and extra clothes!

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All four kids were dripping wet, covered in sand, mud, and red dirt.  But they had FUN.  And so did we.  Watching them work together (for a bit!) building a dam, then running off and splashing, playing and just being kids.  It was beautiful to watch.  And I know they will remember it.  No fighting, just fun and exploring safari style.

This is one of my favourite photos from the trip away –

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I have started the impossible washing load (am 6 loads in…a few to go) and the kids have mentioned a few hundred times how much they love camping and want to go again.  And soon. 

So now I have a 7 year old, and three 4 year olds.  I cannot wait to see what the next year brings!