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2nd January 2013

Happy Wednesday, and happy new year! ¬†2013, a brand new year, with hundreds of days of opportunity ūüôā

I rang in the new year at work – someone has to do it right? ¬†Night shift on New Years’s – only a nurse/ambo/police officer/doctor truly ‘gets’ it! ¬†I looked after the most wonderful gentleman – he was critically unwell, but had the most wonderful attitude. ¬†His comment to me at 7am – I made his new year lovely, by acknowledging it to him, smiling, and being so kind. ¬†I love nursing, and I always will, but I forget how much of an impact you can make on one person in 8 hours. ¬†I still think that there is really no other field I could be in – nursing is such a big part of me!

Hello 2013 & farewell 2012!

Hello 2013 & farewell 2012!

So, a very big goodbye to 2012. ¬†2012 was such a big year! It was a very eventful year that is for sure, and I am hopeful, as I guess we all are on New Years day or the day after, that 2013 will bring much joy! ¬†I have given up with new years resolutions, as every year, I feel as though I don’t achieve all of the resolutions or I get sidetracked. ¬†I have instead, thought of one word that I can focus on for the whole year and see how thinking about things a little differently can lead to better outcomes. ¬†There idea about one word was from the Happiness Project – a thoughtful and wonderful Christmas present I received this year. ¬†I have read only the first chapter, but was totally gobsmacked by this –

“As I looked out the blurry bus window, I saw two figures cross the street – a woman about my age trying simultaneously to balance an umbrella, look at her cell phone, and push a stroller carrying a yellow-slicked child. ¬†The sight gave me a jolt of recognition – that’s me. ¬†I thought, there I am. ¬†I have a stroller, a cell phone, an alarm clock, an apartment, a neighbourhood. ¬†Right now, I am riding the same crosstown bus that I take across the park, back and forth. ¬†This is my life – but I never give any thought to it.

“Is this really it?” I found myself wondering, and answering, ‘yep, this is it’. ¬†But though at times I felt dissatisfied, that something was missing, I also never forgot how fortunate I was. ¬†When I woke up in the middle of the night, as I often did, I’d walk from one room to another to gaze at my sleeping husband tangled in the sheets and my daughters surrounded by their stuffed animals, all safe. ¬†I had everything I could possible want – yet I was failing to appreciate it. ¬†Bogged down in petty complaints and passing crises, wearing of struggling with my own nature, I too often failed to comprehend the splendour of what I have” (Gretchen Rubin, 2009, p2).

I was amazed at the similarities and honestly felt that I could have written the very same paragraph! ¬†(except not as well, and using Pram, Mobile etc….) ¬†I was taken aback by how much I likely do take for granted and now fail to appreciate. Every day, well almost every day, seems to be a unique juggling act around the kids, work and chores. ¬†With these ‘tasks’ in the forefront of my mind, I do think I over look the ¬†day to day things, but still things I should be thankful for! ¬†I guess being stupidly busy does take its toll sometimes and the smaller things become less significant as we overlook them. ¬†I often get asked how I fit everything in, and how I manage with not just triplets but a five year old. ¬†Truth is, I don’t know any different! ¬†I think this is why I am seeking for more malleable and achievable goals. ¬†Little steps, to fit in with my already crammed day!

 

On January 31, I completed the Project 365 – I took a photo a day for a whole year! ¬†I am actually really glad I stuck it out, and really impressed with what I see. ¬†There are so many seemingly little things in those months and days that I would have otherwise not recorded remembered or even thought of! ¬†The comparison’s between months in watching the kids grow and develop is amazing! ¬†It is also quite lovely to see the smaller things like little changes to our house and the before and after photos! ¬†This was how December ended up –

Goodbye December!

Goodbye December!

 

So, looking back over December alone, I can see how time poor I am most of the time (no intentional play on words there!!). ¬†I put a great deal of thought into what I want to achieve this year – with all my hats on – mummy, wife, friend, etc. ¬†What I want is to create. ¬†So create is my word. ¬†I want to create opportunities, meaning, organisation, routine and fun! ¬†I know I cannot make more time, but I can create ways to make more of my time. ¬†Focusing immediately on what takes up my time is clear – kids and work. ¬†Can’t get rid of either of those (one is illegal, and second would mean no home!) so I need to make a way to better allow me to best use my time. ¬†I am excellent at To-Do lists and figure that this can play in well. ¬†I have bought a teacher’s diary to map out my teaching and keep the hours under control. ¬†I am fixing in times each day as set times so that I am more bound to my hours as opposed to keeping myself completely open and working over the top. ¬†This is a big step for me. ¬†Emails can wait 24 hours. ¬†The world will not end! Working from home does have its disadvantages, but for me, right now, it is still an excellent option. ¬†I just need to be strict with myself and schedule the time. ¬†Create a timetable that is healthy for me!

 

Create a fitness timetable that is achievable so that I am not disappointed in myself, or think that the treadmill is yet again glaring at me.  Jason & I have 2 scheduled PT sessions a week, both one hour.  I think we will be ramping this up to 3 per week as we are completing the Tough Mudder in August at the Sunshine Coast.  This is a MASSIVE event for us and really highlights the commitment we have put into our health and fitness.  A year ago neither of us would have been able to do a 5 minute jog, let alone an event like this!

 

Creating a balance – comes back to time, but I need to make the time to see the people I love more often! ¬†There are so many people I am missing right now! ¬†It hit me on new year’s eve how little I have seen of many of my friends recently – the silly season seemingly overtook my time as well! ¬†I need to create more opportunities to see my friends! ¬†I have become so entrenched with my routine that I could not see the forest for the trees! ¬†I can change when I do the groceries or any other chore – and that is exactly what I am going to do. ¬†Monthly BBQ’s, picnics or coffee catch ups are in order, and I just need to ¬†schedule the time in so it is not another thing to juggle. ¬†I work best with a routine!!

 

And finally, the other big area, would be creating Рcraft.  I have decided that this year I am going to complete  Project Life . Created by Becky Higgins, it is a very simplified but gorgeous way to capture and record your day, week and year. Using only the products in the core kit, a pen and your photos.  No searching for the perfect embellishment!  It is just gorgeous!  I have ordered my core kit and am busting for it to arrive.

 

So, 2013, you are going to be good! ¬†You are going to be great! ¬†I will focus on creating, rather than “I will lose 10kgs”, or some random resolution; and will seek out happiness, balance and joy. ¬†Good intentions never last I hear you say? ¬†Well, time will tell, but right now, it’s baby steps. ¬†Change is always difficult when it involves accepting what you have done or not done – change is raw, honest and well, brutal, sometimes. ¬†So, wish me luck, and I will keep you posted ūüôā

Happy New Year!

 

 

 

 

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  • Reply Terry 3rd January 2013 at 20:28

    Love the Calendar. Balance I believe, is most important. When my three were little, life was a chaotic juggling act till I took stock and balanced the inevitable with the attainable – I returned to work and therefore gained a little of ‘me’ back. It wasn’t easy, they still all wanted a piece of me, ever increasing as they got older. It really shakes the sanity steaks but I did survive (not sane though….) hang in there, your friends are your lifeline x

    • Reply Ali Moloney 4th January 2013 at 10:27

      Thanks Terry ūüôā Your comments are always lovely!
      It is a juggling act for sure….and it will be worth it…just gotta get there lol!

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